First, one must REPENT PAST HARMFUL ACTIONS TO OTHERS AND ONESELF.
FORGIVE ONESELF AND OTHERS
After repentance, then we should let go the burden, forgive oneself and others.
TRANSFORM ANGER AND HATRED WITH PATIENCEAnger and hatred are the major obstructions to open-heartedness. To transform them with patience does not mean repressing the emotions. From the perspective of the law of the universe, hatred can only harm us. Whatever is sent out comes back to us eventually.
TRANSFORM MISERLINESS WITH GENEROSITYTo be happy and open-hearted, one has to give, especially to those that need us. “Helping others is the source of happiness”,when we are generously helping other, we will be very happy.
TRANSFORM ARROGANCE WITH GRATITUDEThere is a common saying:”Contentment keeps one happy”. But when arrogance dominates, then one is dissatisfied and blames God and others. Discontentment brings unhappiness. Gratitude can change arrogance and discontentment.
TRANSFORM JEALOUSY WITH REJOICINGTo get the red eye when we see the success of others makes us most unhappy. The best treatment for “red-eye disease” is rejoicing, feeling happy for others’ success and good deeds.
TRANSFORM ATTACHMENT WITH EQUANIMITY“Equanimity” means to eliminate strong feelings of like and dislike. Ordinarily we love and happy with our own family and good friends. If we separate from them then we become very unhappy. Actually with an open heart we meet “families” everywhere, then we are happy all the time. To meet is to have connection.